Top 5 TEDx Talks
This year I decided I was going to give up television in January, not that I watch a huge amount, but I decided that this would be a good start to 2017. I really wanted to spend January focusing on my business goals and on my own personal development. Therefore, I attended lots of networking events, hosted my first sold out goal setting champagne breakfast and started working with 5 new clients. In terms of personal development, I would describe myself as a personal development junkie, because I love it. I love to fill my mind with inspirational and motivational content. This involves reading lots of book, listening to podcasts and watching inspiring videos.
I ended up watching lots of TEDx talks in January and decided that the topic for my blog for this week would be my top five favourite talks. I would strongly recommend that you watch all of these and take notes. I hope you find this helpful.
To Reach Beyond your Limits by Training your Mind by Marisa Peer
Marisa Peer is a best selling author, motivational speaker, therapist and hypnotherapy trainer. The key message from her talk is that collaboration between you and your mind, will result in you getting what you want in life. There are four things that you have to put into practice:
- Tell your mind what you want. Make this really detailed as you are re-wiring your brain for success.
- Link massive pleasure to getting what you want and pain to not getting what you want.
- You have control over the pictures you hold in your mind and the words that you use. Change the pictures and change your words.
- Make the familiar, unfamiliar and make the unfamiliar, familiar. Make self belief so normal to you that everyone else believes in you to.
My Philosophy for a Happy Life by Sam Burns
Sam Burns suffered and died from the premature aging disease Progeria about three years ago when he was 17 years old. The key message in his speech was that even though he had progeria, he still had a very happy life. There are three aspects to his philosophy on this:
- “I’m okay with what I ultimately can’t do because there is so much I can do”. He liked to focus on the things he was passionate about.
- “I surround myself with people I want to be with, people of high quality”. He had a loving family and a close group of friends and they had a lot of fun together.
- “Keep moving forward”. He always tried to have something to look forward to. Something to strive for to make his life richer. It didn’t have to be anything big e.g. he was looking forward to his prom the night after his TEDx talk.
How to Stop Screwing Yourself Over by Mel Robbins
Mel Robbins is a married working mother of three, an ivy-educated criminal lawyer, and one of the top career and relationship experts in America. Mel talks about how to get what you want and focuses her talk on activation energy. That is what she calls the force required to get you to change from what you’re doing on autopilot to doing something new. She talks about the 5 second rule, if you have one of those little impulses that are pulling you to do something, if you don’t marry it with an action within five seconds, you pull the emergency brake and kill the idea. Act on your impulses and just do it.
The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong by Amy Morin
Amy Morin is the author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don’t Do.
There are three kinds of destructive beliefs that make us less effective, and rob us of our mental strength.
- Unhealthy beliefs about ourselves. “Why do these things always have to happen to me?” That way of thinking keeps you stuck, keeps you focused on the problem, keeps you from finding a solution.
- Unhealthy beliefs about others. We think that other people can control us, and we give away our power. But as adults who live in a free country, there is very few things in life that you have to do. So when you say, “I have to work late,” you give away your power. Yes, maybe there will be consequences if you don’t work late, but it is still a choice.
- Unhealthy beliefs about the world. We tend to think that the world owes us something. We think, “If I put in enough hard work, then I deserve success.” But expecting success to fall into your lap like some sort of cosmic reward, will only lead to disappointment.
Mel wrote a list of all the things mentally strong people don’t do. Her journey taught her that the secret to being mentally strong, was that you had to give up your bad mental habits.
7 Ways to Make a Conversation with Anyone by Malavika Varadan
Malaviya Varadan is the host of the number one radio show in the UAE. She offers her top tips for starting a conversation with anyone. She encourages people to talk to strangers because every stranger comes with an opportunity, an opportunity to learn something new, an opportunity to have an experience you never had or hear a story that you’ve never heard before.
- Skip the small talk and ask a really personal question e.g. ask about an interesting name, or how long have you lived in this city and do you remember the first day you landed here, where do you come from and where does your family live?
- Find the me toos. When you find a me too, you automatically have buy-in from the other person.
- Pay a unique compliment.
- Ask for an opinion. When you ask for an opinion, that is when you open up a two-way street. That’s when the real communication begins and you will be surprised by how much you can pick up about a person just by asking their opinion on something generic.
- Be present. When someone is trying to communicate with you, the least you can do is really be in that conversation, just be wholeheartedly present.
- Make eye contact. Eye contact is where all the magic happens. You can feel the conversation and when you are looking at someone in the eye, nine out of 10 times they will not dare look away.
- Remember the little details about a person – name, place, animal.
What Should You Do Next?
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